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51 grouchy years of marriage

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    There have been more romantic words uttered when two kindred spirit’s eyes first meet, but when a match is made, a match is made.
    Almost 52 years ago, a 19-year-old Garry Nargang began working in a seniors home in Melfort, SK. While only there for a short time, already had a bit of a reputation as a tippler. Fran worked in the office at the facility, and had heard a little bit about the new guy in the kitchen.
    One summer afternoon she was doing payroll and handing out pay cheques.
    “I took him his pay cheque and said:
     “Now you can go out and get drunk!”
    Fran laughs. “Those were the first words I said to him.”
    It seemed to make an impression, even though neither of them were of age to drink in Saskatchewan yet.
    “That’s where my brother would come in,” recalls Fran.
    One day at work, a few of the office girls were going to the lake for the afternoon, and mentioned to Garry that he ought to ask Fran to come along.  Being a little bit coy, he said he would, but he wasn’t prepared to walk all the way to the office to do it.
    A few minutes later, the girls carried Fran to the kitchen, and he asked, she accepted.
    After work he came and picked her up for their first date.
    He had finished work at 2 in the afternoon and was waiting at 4 when she finished work, already with a few stout in him, and asked if she was ready to go.
    Well, she still needed to go home and get ready, and she lived 13 miles out of town. He took her home to the farm. For a city slicker from Moose Jaw he had never brought a girl home to a log house before. None the less, she changed and the were off.
    It seems like the city slicker didn’t know all the roads either, because he missed the turn in his 1963 Volkswagen Beetle  (Garry called it his camper because the seats folded flat) and hit the ditch. A farmer pulled them out and the made it to the lake.
    Garry was smitten. He began phoning every night, and he would drive all the way to the farm to pick her up for coffee, or to park beside a certain set of granaries.
    “The guy that owns the land with the granaries would get mad at another guy and give him heck because he thought it was this other fellow because of the tire tracks,” laughs Fran. “But it was us.”
    In fact, it was one of those evenings in October, by the granaries, when they became engaged. By February they were married.
    In June, they went on their honeymoon, and it was a family affair.
    “We couldn’t afford to do too much on our own so we took my mom and my brother along and they paid part of it,” said Fran. They travelled to Ontario and Wisconsin to visit family.
    The couple left Melfort in 1967 when Garry began work in the kitchen at the federal penitentiary. They came to Drumheller in 1970, and in 1986 they opened the Old Grouch’s at the former Western Chev building in downtown Drumheller. They have been at their current location for 22 years.
    This February 27, they will be celebrating 51 years.
    When asked what the secret is to this everlasting love, Fran replies tolerance.
    Garry laughs and says “knowing when to shut up.”
    A few years ago, a friend gave them a set of boxing gloves, but they have never been used. Despite the moniker of “Old Grouch,” he says they seldom fight. He says a relationship takes work.
     “In this day and age no one works at it. They expect everything to sail along and be joyful, but at the first bump in the road  they quit.”
    Happy Valentine’s Day, now you can go and get drunk!


Alberta Solar Co-op to be built north of Drumheller

Solar Panels at Raugust farms

    The first Alberta Solar Co-op project will soon be a reality. The Drumheller Mail spoke with Starland County Development Officer Jordan Webber about the project.
    Webber said, “Alberta Solar Co-op is going to be a great thing. It is the first solar farm cooperative in Alberta and Western Canada. We’re going to try to put it in Starland County. The specific land location will be disclosed in about two weeks as we have multiple options and will need to narrow it down.  They will be purchasing 15 acres of land for 2 megawatts, which is enough to power 400 homes.  It will offset about 2000 tonnes of CO2 annually.  There will be 8000 solar modules which are  approximately 3’ by 5’ in dimension.”
    Webber further said,” It will provide tax revenue to the community that it is installed in. Shares are being sold at $5,000 each and   these shares will be RRSP and TFSA eligible, allowing members to transfer investment from an existing RRSP/TFSA account into the project. It is a good way for someone to get involved with the green future and helping out the electrical market move forward.  People can participate in getting it installed and also get a return.”
    Alberta Solar Co-op will be the first “Distributed Generated” solar in Alberta, which means the energy gets put back on the distribution line and powers  the grid.
    Webber further explained, “Co-ops work with local ownership benefitting the people who invest. Value of the project is about $6,000,000 and it will be available for all Albertans to buy shares.  It gives you an ownership stake and any profit made above that is returned to you, same as a dividend.  Alberta Solar Co-op have had many conversations with the provincial government who will not be involved with the funding. All support is local initiative.”

Still planning honeymoon

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    Carol and Mike Todor met over 37 years ago, through mutual friends, at the Windsor Hotel in Red Deer.  Mike was living in Red Deer and Carol was an industrial painter, up in Ft. McMurray. They were both in their young twenties and only dated for six months before getting married December 9, 1978. They have been married 37 years.
    Their honeymoon was spent in Red Deer and “It was alright, we’re still planning the honeymoon.” laughs Mike.
    Together they have one daughter who gave them a grandson last fall.  “He was just a little thing on my knee, now you have to hang onto him.”
    “The thing I love about Carol is that she puts up with me, she just works so hard and she is willing to share her life, just who she is.” expressed Mike.
 They work together at 3rd Avenue Arts and have been in the building for 22 years. It was derelict when they bought it and hired contractors to do the ground floor and then did the rest themselves.
    Mike said, “We are just a couple of crazy artists living in Alberta. Seemingly, we’ve done it. Carol does water colors and some of them are displayed in the gallery. She retired from teaching dance last spring.”
    They live and work under one roof and have created the distances that they need. Mike will work through the day and she’ll work the evening. Carol is skiing right now and she emailed to Mike, “You are the best Valentine ever, because you stay at home so I can ski.”
    When Mike was asked to recall some crazy times in their marriage, he replied: “I do remember working upstairs, on a step ladder, on top of scaffolding.  Carol was running the sander below and knocked over a lamp.  I thought she was going to electrocute me!
  We’ve never had a lot of time to go on holidays, but a couple of years ago we flew to Arizona, then drove to California and had the flu the whole time.”     
    Sometimes Mike rides his motorcycle, a Yamaha V-Star 1100 and sometimes Carol goes skiing.  It gets them apart so they can be back together, and this keeps the romance alive. Carol used to ride with Mike on an old Goldwing motorbike for thousands of miles, but she hurt her back.  Then it was decided that riding was her history not her future.
     Mike explained, “We just seem to work together and we get along.  They say that marriage is 50/50 and it’s not. It’s 100/100 and it’s just who is giving 100 today and who is giving 100 tomorrow.  It’s shared and you’ve got to care.”


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